There is always a twist in stories, even in each chapter, that jolts us back into focus just when we start to believe that it's going to be a smooth ride. This is how we will never have blind footsteps; many mistakes and dumb choices that we will have to live with - yes, but not unguided by explanations, experiences or emotions.. 

Something prompted me to go back to 'Tuesdays with Morrie' where they talked about detachment. Instead of steeling ourselves against emotions for fear of being vulnerable, allow ourselves to experience them fully and completely. Turn on the faucet. Wash yourself with the emotion. It won't hurt you, it will only help. If you let the fear inside, if you pull it on like a familiar shirt, then you can say to yourself, "Alright, it's only fear. I don't have to let it control me. I see it for what it is."

Same for loneliness: you let go, let the tears flow, feel it completely - but eventually be able to say, "Alright, that was my moment of loneliness. I'm not afraid of feeling lonely, but now I'm going to put that loneliness aside and know that there are other emotions in the world, and I'm going to experience them as well."

"Detach," Morrie said again.