Recalling happy memories about a past relationship is not a bad thing. Most people may be scared to find that they are missing a particular moment they have shared with that special someone once upon a time. Maybe it's because it makes them feel vulnerable to the emotional elements, or that it is mistaken as pining. When a relationship ends in heartbreak (with or without breaking any china), the next phonecall we make is usually to book a one-way ticket out of that person's life and never look back. We want to move on, heal, and be ready for the next one that comes along (or maybe join a convent).

In actual fact, it is inhumane, or rather, humanly impossible, to forget about the good - they even had to build a machine for it in Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind. As far as the old sayings go - forgive and forget, live and let live (I could go on forever), it certainly did not leave instructions to lobotomize the happy memories etched in the past. We may pack them into a really tiny box and stash it away among other inconceivable moments (or sleeping with the fishes), but it will see the light of day occasionally, and can't be forgotten. 

When we have truly healed, the melancholic song-writing urges will stop, the fascination with Lady Gaga will turn into fifty shades of horror, and all wrongs will be righted. Any deep-seated hatred or blood-sworn revenge will dissipate and you may find yourself turning to love instead of bitterness. Do not be apologetic for it - not to yourself, your friends or your partner. It makes us a better person. Romans 5:8 reminds us how God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Let's raise our glasses to celebrate happy memories - to have-beens and more to come. 

Here's to all the eXes (and Os).